Aretha Franklin Sang about it.
Hit men mafia types talk about it in movies. We all want it in all facets of our lives. It is all about R~E~S~P~E~C~T!
(Aretha Franklin Song ~ Respect)
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| Bubbly Me:"Think Pink!" |
Ramblings about Relationships
Sometimes those who are hurt, fall back on what they know. They run to their safe place. From there they lick their wounds, re-evaluate their situation and muster the strength to either confront their attacker, or cut them loose. This has always been my strength. I tend to run. I have always felt that there is no point in being with someone, or around them if they do not want to be with or around me. If they did not truly value our friendship enough to protect it, and invest in it then it was not as important to them as it was to me. It was better to have found out sooner rather than later. I would end up being hurt more the further involved I became. It always took me a while to learn this however.
I'm not perfect and I had some major crushes in my time. One boy in high school, ( who will remain nameless....) I believe I wore his name out by the amount of times I said, "Hi ******" to him in a day! Now that to me is funny! At the time it was crushing for me, when I found out that he had gotten a girlfriend over the weekend. I was so innocent about what boyfriends and girlfriends were about. Up to that point, the most consistent boy relationship I had was a boy that had moved away from our school who had held my hand at lunch. Before that, (a different boy in Colorado) who liked me used to send notes to me through my friend. His mother was my teacher at Jamestown Elementary School. I met him through her, but he went to school with the kids from my father's neighborhood in Boulder. We would see each other at the roller rink sometimes, but really how silly is that? I don't even remember what the notes said. I just remember that my brother gave me a hard time over the notes and how bad I felt when we "broke-up" through a note. It is funny how people talk now of the text message break-ups. They used to complain of the break-ups over an answering machine and really how do you think people used to do it? If they had no phone, they would have to drive over (by car or before that horse back??) and see them face to face, or "send a letter." Which is today's email or text message!
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| Emily,"It's Magic! |
"Rhythm Of Love" by the Plain White T's
(http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JWiwuiT58Yc ),
is that we are all still in a constant state of hope. Hope that it is out there & that it does last forever! That true love is real!
I believe true love exist, it is real & can last forever! I believe that ALL relationships take work. They take time & proper care. You can't call it a relationship if you do not "relate" at all. It starts with simply thinking of the other person. I remember my mom and I watching a movie when I was a bit younger. The Creator (Creator is a 1985 film directed by Ivan Passer, starring Peter O'Toole, Vincent Spano, Mariel Hemingway and Virginia Madsen ) in it the professor spoke of the formula for love being that you take the number of times you think of yourself in a day from the number of times you think of that person. If you have a number leftover and are not the negatives you are in love. It was something like that anyway.
(Oh how many times I have sat around singing the Supremes ~ Come See About Me ~ http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PycKSdKG_74 )
I just remember my mom telling me that the formula from the movie was true. I think the point being that you think of the other person more than you think of yourself. It is not about the 'hook-up!' It is about the connection. I am just a hopeful romantic! Another tip of GOLD my mom told me and I believed it to be true. There is only one reason for anyone to ever marry..... "For Love." If you really think about it... even in the vows, there is only one thing that can sustain you. Fame and stability of fortune can be gone in the beat of a heart. The only thing that can pull you through is the person for whom your heart beats. To quote my friend who was responding to my question: "What drives you?" He said, " To wake up one more day next to my beautiful wife and have one more
Thank you Duane...I believe that proves love does exist. It does not mean that it is perfect or has to have been proven so. What happens between two is between two. No one truly knows unless they are one of the two and even sometimes it is hard for the two to explain it. As my daughter would say, "its magic!" I myself have known the feeling. I have gone weak in the knees, had butterflies in my stomach & my heart has raced, but the best part about being in love, is how easy it is to be around that one special person. You still have to take what you find... or it can be taken away in the beat of a heart.What needs to be said about respect and relationships.
When you stand in front of all the people you know..... you choose the person who you believe at the time will sustain YOU. You are telling all of those people that this person is the person for you. You are not standing there to tell them that this is the person for them. I find it so interesting how people seem so invested in a couple's relationship and become so involved in their marriage, when it really has nothing to do with them. Those people are standing there to bare witness for your union. They are your supporters at that present time and it is your hope that they will be your supporters in future in a positive way. I believe that people on the outside of a relationship can make or break that relationship, but what it comes down to, or the bottom line are the two people in it. From that point on..... it is the two of you "as one!" All opinions of others do not matter. If they question that.... Just ask them to walk in your shoes. Have them take an honest look at how they would treat their spouse in the same position. Glass houses are a fragile place to live. Take another look at the three little pigs fairy tale. Shall we all go live in the house of bricks or the house of straw? Build your foundation strong and build it together to last forever. No matter how similar your upbringing, two people who come to live in the same house are going to have issues. You will learn what is important and what isn't real fast. You learn what will make or break you real fast and you must learn to talk to each other. Talking is IMPORTANT!! If you can't talk to each other, try having kids! NO!! Kids will only complicate an already difficult relationship. You will never have time to talk, or learn to talk to each other if you have children! Every conversation will become about them. Even if you have an incredible amount of things in common, if you do not learn to talk out your little issues before kids it may never happen. So before you complicate it, make sure you have that all worked out. From what I have heard the top three major relationship issues are: 1. Financial, 2. Communication, & 3. Family.
I believe the only drama in a relationship is the drama people allow in it and create. It is simple, just be good to each other and respect what you have. Don't do things that will hurt the other and give them the benefit of the doubt first when you do not have all the details. Do not doubt your love or yourself. Believe in yourself and know your worth. Everyone has excuses, but the point & bottom line is.... if two people want to be together... there is nothing anyone can do about it. They will be together. One way or another, it will happen. You can be the best at everything and if a guy cares for someone he will go be with the one that he cares for. It is either meant to be or it isn't. If he cares for you .... you will know it. You both either respect what you have in each other or not.
Like my brother used to tell me,
"if a guy likes you... he will call... He will show you how he feels about you by how he treats you.... he will care enough to give you the respect you deserve.. I didn't always listen to Chas, but I always remembered that he told me that." ~
Good luck to you & much love my dear friend #1... always remember that you deserve the flowers, candle lit dinners out and a guy who is proud to show you off & happy (feels blessed to) share your company. If he doesn't treat you well and with RESPECT (believe me) it only gets more complicated later, when there are more heart strings involved.
Good luck & much love to my dear friend #2... please know that you deserve a girl who wants to take care of you the way you take care of her. Who can't wait to see you when you come home each day and strives to look her best to make you wild for her. The right girl will see the value of your heart, not the value of your pocket book. Hang in there my friend. You are valued.
One last song to start the day....only took me a few days to get this one going!! HA!
(Train - Hey, Soul Sister)
Have a good one! ~ keepitbubbly ~ xOx ~ Jeri
